Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Good Chinese Wife Book Review

I have another equally interesting book called Good Chinese Wife written by Susan Blumberg-Kason that is actually a true life story!

A stunning memoir of an intercultural marriage gone wrong. 
When Susan, a shy Midwesterner in love with Chinese culture, started graduate school in Hong Kong, she quickly fell for Cai, the Chinese man of her dreams. As they exchanged vows, Susan thought she'd stumbled into an exotic fairy tale, until she realized Cai—and his culture—where not what she thought. 
In her riveting memoir, Susan recounts her struggle to be the perfect traditional "Chinese" wife to her increasingly controlling and abusive husband. With keen insight and heart-wrenching candor, she confronts the hopes and hazards of intercultural marriage, including dismissing her own values and needs to save her relationship and protect her newborn son, Jake. But when Cai threatens to take Jake back to China for good, Susan must find the courage to stand up for herself, her son, and her future. 
Moving between rural China and the bustling cities of Hong Kong and San Francisco, Good Chinese Wife is an eye-opening look at marriage and family in contemporary China and America and an inspiring testament to the resilience of a mother's love—across any border.
I guess it can be quite a shock when you step into a culture you know nothing about but you get these thoughts in your head that make it seem romantic and dreamy while in reality it can be far from that. From what I read of the book, Susan thought the Chinese culture was great and wanted to live there, so she went to Hong Kong and was going to school there until she met her future husband.

Things didn't turn out so well once they were married and she got a first hand glimpse at what really goes on behind closed doors! I can relate as I married someone from another country in my early 30's and thought it would all work out but their culture was so different and the hardest part for me anyway was that they refused to talk English when there were parties at each other's houses. I never knew what people were saying so after awhile I quit going and I guess that was the start of the end, but at what point do you have to sacrifice everything for that person?

Susan's story hit a nerve and as I read it, I was amazed that she stayed as long as she did, even with a baby and being in a foreign country away from family and friends. I have no clue why her husband married her just like I have none why mine did either, but I can only assume it was some sort of glory for them to be married to Americans and see how far they could push you.

This book is a good reminder to be aware at all times of who you are and what you expect out of life and to make sure that the person you choose to marry is on the same wavelength that you are. Hopefully, this story will help the next women before she ends up in a place she doesn't really want to be in.

Happy Reading!

About the Author:

SUSAN BLUMBERG-KASON is a freelance journalist in Chicago. Her work has appeared in the Chicago Sun Times, TimeOut Chicago, Journal of the American Dietetic Association, and Chicago Parent magazine. She lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband and three children.

I have one extra book to give away and it's a paperback copy. I think it's a book every women should read to understand how men in other countries think about women. Open in the Continental U.S. only. Good Luck Everyone!

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Disclosure: Mary Bearden personally reviewed these products. I did not receive any monetary compensation for my review, just a sample product. All opinions are mine and belong to me solely. My thoughts and opinions may differ from yours.


Kelly Bernard said...

As long as it was I country I really wanted to move to then yes I would go. I can make new friends and find wys to stay in touch with family.

janetfaye said...

I would never move to a different country.

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Tough Inspector said...

Dependent upon my circumstances - war, death in family, married to military man - I would definitely move to a different country where you had no friends or family.. I am a strong woman and can make new friends while I skype with the old! :0 - nicole bowers

Madonna said...

I have never lived where I wasn't near at least some of my family so I seriously doubt I would move to another country completely.

Christine Savinelli said...

Yes I would, as long as the country had many things to visit that interested me. I make friends easily, & can keep in touch with family & friends easily. I moved 30 years ago to the state I live in, without knowing a sole ( had a job though), & have no regrets. I realize, moving to an area,without knowing anyone is not for everyone!

Anita Yancey said...

I would never move to another country where I had no family or friends. I have moved to another country before but I had my husband and daughter with me. Thanks for having the giveaway.