Friday, November 2, 2012

Dear Deb Book Review

I am on a roll with a few books I wanted to get out of the way before all the Holiday reviews need to be done and I was afraid the books would get lost in the shuffle so I have done a few I could post immediately and some for next week so I can focus on product reviews.

But this is one of the books I thought you might want to get for yourself or a family member or even a friend who is going thru cancer or knows someone who is.

Here is an excerpt from the book:
"I want you to know that if my illness inspired you to write these stories, the cancer was worth it."—Deb What stories could possibly make cancer worth it?  
Stories that represent a miracle—a lifetime of miracles. Stories that changed the writer as she wrote them and stories that will touch the heart of the reader, one by one by one.  
Stories that are not just stories. They started out as words of encouragement to a dying woman. They turned into a collection of sparkling and intimate moments, pulled from the past to finally be understood and shared with new meaning.  
Story by story, letter by letter, Margaret Terry uncovered powerful pictures in her own life of the one truth that could help carry her friend Deb from this life to the next: God is at work.  
Together, Deb and Margaret found renewed hope in all the ways God shows up right to the very end. Which is where they found the miracle they'd been praying for all along. In each other.
My Thoughts:

Of all the books I have read, this one touched my heart as no other book has before. You see, my father died of lung cancer back in 2004, a week before Thanksgiving. When that happened I was dealing with some minor health issues and then him getting sick and being diagnosed within 4 weeks, he was gone. I had no time to prepare. We were told he had at least 6 months so those 4 weeks really threw me off. And the worse part was, he died on my watch while we were alone at his house. My husband did not come that weekend, he was on call and my brother had to work as well. So, I went to stay with him and we had a wonderful time Saturday and even went out for a cheeseburger for dinner.

So, him dying on me Sunday afternoon was a total shock! We had just talked and the phone rang and I went to answer it and when I came back to the living room, he was gone. Something told me he wasn't asleep, he looked "off" is all I can say.

By the end of 2005, everyone knew I was in trouble. It was like I had lived in a zombie like state since he died. My mother had been gone since 1988 so losing him also became too strange or too weird for me to explain. I felt like my whole world had slid and that I was all alone.Which isn't true because I had my husband, my daughter and my granddaughter.

I had 2 brothers but not really. Too long a story but let's just say one of them would probably pass me in the hall and if he knew I was dying, he would keep right on walking and would never say a word. To put it mildly, he hates me for some unreasonable imaginary lie or something he thinks I did, which even I don't know what that is. The other one is in no shape to help anyone.

So, I finally came out of my coma like state and knew I needed to talk to a psychologist and I did and I got better which was a good thing since my health decided to really sucker punch me around that time, but that is another story.

Getting back to Margaret and Deb; while Margaret was writing letters to Deb, who had been diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer, her whole life, past and present opened up for her. In sharing  with Deb in the miracles of her life, Margaret's heart and soul opened and she saw her life.

She realized that her 2 sons, Michael and Patrick were her greatest miracles one could ever receive. Even though Deb died,  her last days full of the knowing that she was loved in every way and truly her miracle was just beginning.

You really do need to read this book if you or someone you know or your family member has any terminal disease, it doesn't have to be lung cancer. This book will help you heal in ways I can't explain or put into words without sounding like a nut, but the author of this book must be truly blessed with the knowledge that she is indeed going to heaven when her time comes.

Happy Reading!

Disclaimer: Mary Bearden personally reviewed these products. I did not receive any monetary compensation for my review, just a sample product. All opinions are mine and belong to me solely. My thoughts and opinions may differ from yours.